It’s not in your control; things happen for a reason. I really used to hate hearing that.
I couldn’t blindly put my faith into a situation that was out of my control. So I told myself I would never put myself into those situations again. But sometimes, it just happens.
Sometimes, when you least expect it, someone will come into your life and open your eyes. Open your eyes to possibility, to new things, new experiences… but sometimes, they’re only there because they were sent to teach you a lesson that you wouldn’t otherwise learn by yourself. But just like how they came into your life, at any given time, they can leave.
As hard as I tried to avoid repeating history, I ended up lost again.
But this time, I learned something that I wasn’t able to grasp the previous times. It isn’t about letting go of that person, letting go of all the good times, moving on, or even trying to get back with them. It’s about letting go of the idea that you have control over more than yourself.
Things will happen in your life and you won’t even have a say in it.
Winter comes after Autumn but you can’t hold onto Autumn just because you love the season. It’s the law of nature for seasons to change.
We as humans are constantly changing just like the atmosphere and society around us. We’re influenced by so many things and sometimes it gets the better of us and we lose control over who we are. Suffering and sadness comes from thinking you have the ability to control everything. I was living with an illusion of control over the nature of things. I thought that if I did things a certain way, I would be able to manipulate the situation. But it was an illusion. I’ve learnt this now. I know that the only thing I can do is control my own mind.
So every day I’m working to become the better version of myself because that’s the one thing I have full control of. I’m letting my attachments and everything else go because I want to appreciate the entire picture and not focus on one treasured piece that I have no control over. It is what it is, and if it’s meant to happen, it will happen.